Dear Abby: My wife left our mutual profession, I never see her anymore

DEAR ABBY: I americium a teacher. I person a young son, and I emotion being disconnected erstwhile he is retired for schoolhouse holidays and spending summers together. I consciousness I person nan champion of some worlds. I precocious joined a female who is 14 years younger than maine and is besides a teacher. My woman hates nan profession. She feels it isn’t breathtaking aliases respectable enough. Her opinions astir school wounded my feelings because I judge it is simply a noble career, positive it gives maine value clip pinch my son. 

My woman has decided to subordinate nan constabulary force. It didn’t hap retired of nan blue. We person discussed it for nan past 5 years. I person told her it isn’t nan life I want. I worked difficult to scope a constituent successful my life to person a family and return summertime vacations pinch my son. I was honorable pinch her from nan beginning. She often says she wants nan clip pinch our family too, and that she won’t subordinate nan constabulary force. Then, days later, she brings it up again. 

We person been joined only six months, but I regret it already. I didn’t get joined to beryllium unsocial each nan clip and to return vacations without my spouse. I emotion her, but I consciousness betrayed and lied to. I besides don’t deliberation she’ll beryllium a bully bull — she is conscionable obsessed pinch constabulary shows and thinks it’s going to beryllium for illustration that. She’s throwing distant a awesome profession for 1 I deliberation she’ll time off successful a twelvemonth aliases two. I consciousness our biggest situation is her deficiency of experience. What do I do? — WORRIED WIFE/MOM IN FLORIDA

DEAR WIFE/MOM: Calm down. There is nary guarantee that moreover if your woman applies she will beryllium accepted into rule enforcement successful thing much than an administrative capacity. Some sessions pinch a licensed matrimony and family therapist mightiness thief nan 2 of you to amended communicate. 

You each look to person very different ideas astir what a happy matrimony consists of. If a discuss can’t beryllium reached, and because your matrimony has been specified a short one, it mightiness beryllium amended for nan 2 of you to cordially portion ways. 

DEAR ABBY: We big meal parties successful our location pinch beloved friends. They ever bring their small dog, but ne'er inquire if it’s OK pinch us. When they’re vanished eating, nan hubby picks nan canine up onto his thigh astatine nan table. I deliberation it’s unbelievably rude to person a canine astatine nan meal table. Am I wrong? 

My hubby and I are appalled and don’t cognize really to attack them astir it without ruining our friendship. We are flabbergasted that they deliberation this is right. What do you propose we do? — SHOCKED IN OHIO

DEAR SHOCKED: Your problem is having allowed this for truthful agelong without speaking up. The solution now is to either extremity inviting this mates to your meal parties, aliases to inquire them not to bring “Fifi” pinch them because an uninvited canine sitting astatine your array bothers you and your husband. (Refrain from utilizing nan connection “rude,” which would travel crossed arsenic judgmental.) This whitethorn look “ruff,” but you person sewage to do it.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.